‘My boss treats s@x as currency – if I give her a good time, she’ll give me a pay rise’

I work for a successful firm but have been warned that I won’t be considered for promotion unless I wine and dine the boss. A colleague says that our boss expects dates and sex in return for a leg-up the corporate ladder. if I give her a good time, then she will reward me with a pay rise. She is a formidable woman and I admire her drive, but I don’t fancy her.

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Our fella doesn’t want to cheat on girlfriend

And I don’t fancy cheating on my girlfriend either. Yet my girlfriend expects me to make a success of myself. Apparently, my boss has already hinted that I haven’t shown her enough respect by not flattering and wooing her. What do I do?

JANE SAYS: Do not cross that line. Hold your nerve and remember what you believe in. Vow to be professional at all times. Regrettably, there is still a culture of “you scratch my back and I’ll scratch yours” in the business arena. But your ego-driven boss has no right to expect sexual favours from you.

Are you inclined to report her to a higher authority? Do you have hard and fast evidence? Do you need to start looking for a new position?

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Jane says our reader may have to report boss

Tell your girlfriend everything so that there are no secrets and keep a diary of what has transpired so far. Check out Acas.org.uk if you feel intimidated.

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